Posts Tagged ‘challenge’

Learning to say NO

It is funny how people work. We are always so eager to say no to people about things that do not benefit us in some way or another. I have recently gone through a bit of a rollercoaster in my career. I hurt my hand so I have had to take a step back and let my hand heal and at the same time learn to tell people no or that I can’t help them and for me, that has been one of the hardest things I have had to do.

I am not the type of person that will say yes to you because it will benefit me but I will say yes because it is what is best for the person. I have had to put myself first and learn to say no and by doing that, I am starting to take the time to learn what it is that I need.

It is all very well helping people for a living and then coming home and helping out the people that I care about but I have come to realise that it is ok to saying no to helping them and asking them to help me. Some people only see me as the Fixer but I have been told that I am more than just that!

I am more than the person who solves problems and fixes and makes better, I am a person with feelings and needs as well.

I want you all to learn from my time off and learn that it is ok to not always help. You cannot help someone if you broken or you are an empty cup. You need to take care of yourself so that you strong enough to help the other people out there who may need your help. Do not be a doormat and allow someone to walk all over you just because they are going through a rough time in their life. We all have issues and troubles. That is what makes life a challenge and worth it! But that is not an excuse to be used the whole time and not have someone take care of you.

Learn to say NO to save YOURSELF!

Hope you all have an amazing day full of love.

Lots of love

Ash

Second year

Hello all my gorgeous viewers

Here we are again, beginning of a new year with new opportunities and challenges. I am very excited for this year in terms of college because this is the year I find my feet. Let me explain.

This year I get to do things for myself. I get to run a salon and learn stuff that is going to be a challenge for me. I can’t do stuff that does not make me think. I get bored too quickly. That is why I always need to keep busy and so on. I choose my majors and minors this year and that is very exciting for me. End of this year, I will be a qualified Somotologist. How crazy is that!? The thing I have been dreaming of will come true end of this year please G-D and then I specialise. Ok so that is a very scary thought. Time waits for nobody! and if you not ready, the train will leave with or without you so I guess I need to ready because if I wasn’t, I would not be at the train station waiting for this train.

It has been a hard couple of months and the next few are going to be harder because I need to choose the train. My little sister started first year today and I am watching her get onto her train scared as anything but ready for the ride. It is not an easy thing for an older sibling to watch their younger siblings grow up but like I said, time waits for no-one so you need to get on and be there for them when they need you.

My brother is in grade 11 and getting his learners licence this year and will be applying for university soon and my poor heart is not coping with them growing up. BUT I am happy for them because they will get to follow their dreams just like I am doing right now and they will do amazingly well this year. My Shmoobear is also growing up. Grade 9 now and full of shit! But I love her lots.

So, new trains, new experiences and challenges but same old family. They just more grown up now. I guess so am I. I need to be grown up to cope with them growing up and I need to get my ducks in a line so that I can be there for them even when my life is changing. Matric you have to choose your course, I now need to choose my direction for my career and that is not an easy thing to do. My choices is going to disappoint some people and make other people feel like they have won and were right all along but truth is: I need to do this for me. I need to choose the directions I can live with and be happy about… What will I choose, I am not so sure right now but what I am sure about is where I need to be and that is right here for my siblings. That is my choice.

I want to wish everyone good luck for the year and their studies. May you all reach your dreams and never give up! If you want it enough, you will find a way to have it.

Love
Ash
xxx