Posts Tagged ‘life lesson’

Time to change the world

Hello strangers.

I know I have been distant at the moment, I have been so busy writing for everyone else that I have forgotten to write for me.

It has been a long few weeks and I have had to overcome a lot of different mountains let alone obstacles. I have learned a lot though and I would like to share my biggest lesson I have learned.

When did we forget how to be children? Good question wouldn’t you say? I feel that once you have become an adult or you get out of school, you forget to love the small things in life. You forget to ask questions and look at the world with awe. My family mocks me and often tells me that I am immature and this is so far from the truth. I am financially stable, I have a full time job, I own a business and I make money by writing articles for overseas people and yet they think I act like a child. Truth is, I do act like a child because it keeps me grounded.

Life is hard and life is unfair however, life can be fun as well. I work a full day and come home to play Disney songs or get up to mischief with my dad because life is too short to be serious all the time. There are more people on anxiety medication or reflux medication caused by stress that the thought is actually making me sick.

Go outside and play like you played when you were children. Make a mess and laugh about it instead of screaming like an idiot about how much it cost. If you do not want it to get dirty, don’t buy it. It really is that simple!

Appreciate the small things in life like a dragonfly floating above the water or how astonishing bubbles are. If you walk past a bubble and do not want to pop it, there is something seriously wrong with it.

Take it from me, become a child from an hour a day and you will see how much better your life will become. You will be more relaxed and become more grateful for what you have.

Namaste

 

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Time to deal with my problem

Hey guys

This post includes a short story as well as an explanation… At the moment, I am dealing with someone in my life who is making my life hard and at time, I just cannot deal with it. I feel as if she is trying to run my life and be someone who she is not but having said that, I still love her with all of my heart and soul. I honestly just need to find the balance between all of this and learn to deal with it. I have always been told that you are not given anything you cannot handle,therefore, it is time for me to learn to handle this.

You are taught things in life like how to walk and talk, how to ride your bike and then the fairy wheels get taken off and you learn to ride a two wheeler, you then learn how to drive a car and run a home. Anything that is attached to something materialistic, you can be taught how to use it or taught the skill. All you need is the instruction manual and you are good to go. The issues begin when emotions come into play and your feelings and other human beings. You see, no-one can teach you how to deal with every single person because everyone is different and we all come with our own sets of rules and goals and life lessons. We learn from each other (the good and bad about a person can help you learn about the way in which a certain type of person functions) and by learning about other people, we begin to learn more about ourselves and the type of people we can and cannot handle. New problem… what if you are related to someone you cannot handle all the time? A person who you cannot connect with or understand on a certain level… I was told a story tonight that I would like to share with you

A few years ago a man became very rich and his father lived with him. They were not short of anything and whatever the father needed, he got and the son was very happy to give it to him. As the years went by, the father got older and more and more demanding and slowly but surely, the son could not take it anymore and he kicked the father out the house and onto the streets. The more the son thought about all the mess the father would make and all the stuff he broke, the better he felt about his decision. A few weeks past and the grandson was walking home and saw a bunch of beggars on the side of the road. The one stopped him and asked for some money or food or something. The grandson turned around and said, “I am sorry but I don’t have anything with me at the moment.” The grandfather grabbed his hand and said, “Do you not recognise me? I am you grandfather.” The boy was in shock and told his grandfather to wait one minute as he ran home to get help. When he got home he started to cry and said to his father that you have to help him! He has become a beggar and has nothing. “My son, I am not interested in your sob stories but go into the attic and get a coat and you can give it to him.” The grandson wiped his tears and went to go get the coat. A few minutes later the father went to the attic and asked what is taking him so long. Eventually the son came down with half of a coat. “My son! What have you done? Now there is no coat and your grandfather is going to freeze!” The son looked at his father and said,” I am saving the other half of the coat for when I kick you out the house just like you did to your father.” It was at that moment that the son realised what he had done and he brought his father back into his home…

We are all faced with challenges and people we do not always want to deal with but at the end of the day, we have to be grateful that they are there and that we have to do what we have to do sometimes. We cannot live life with regrets and no matter how much something or someone might get on your nerves, we have to remember that one day we will all be there and we will all get old and need some help and someone to be there.

Don’t give half a coat. Give the full coat and learn to balance everything.

Have a great weekend guys
Ash
xxx

Time to think like a child

Hey guys

So I am not going to keep saying sorry for not writing as much. I promise you that I am writing when I have the time to write but at the moment, I just don’t have the time to be one with my thoughts and feelings…

Anyway, time for a catch up session and some words of wisdom or clarity. I have started a new job and it is fun but its stressful at times. I am basically the person who fills in for anyone who cannot do their job or is not there. Sounds weird but working with children is lots of fun and is rewarding because when that child gets toys with his tickets or knocks down 2 pins, they get so excited and it got me thinking. I work 9 hour shifts and I get to watch children have fun in what they believe is heaven. Mommy or daddy gives someone money, they can then go play games and at the end of it, they get toys. How awesome is that! You get rewarded for playing games. Now when we grow up, we forget about that feeling. Same as children in a candy store, its heaven and the best place on earth. As we grow up, we don’t lose the idea of how awesome it is to play with games and that feeling in a candy store but we do forget that we still children and parts of us always will be.

I am a college student now and I sometimes feel like I have been given too much to deal with. I am not an adult yet! I am still a teenager and I want to stay a teenager. I am not ready to be an adult and start thinking about how my marks now reflect on my future and my actions will either make me earn more or less money. I want to be that child on the bumper cars having fun and driving into people and then laughing about it. Or swashing the spiders and getting rewarding for it… I was then told to go onto the floor and help the kids out and explain how the games work and then I was placed in the bar area to check on the people playing pool and table tennis and then it hit me… I am still the kid in the games room. It is just a different room and different games with different prizes.

At first, the prizes was silly string and dolls. Then it changed to mind puzzles and model cars and now the prizes are apartments and a job that makes me and other people happy. I will always be a child at heart because at the end of the day when I lie in my daddy’s arms, I am his little girl and he will always be there to protect me and explain to me how the game works and help me get the best prizes that I can get.

I am still the same little girl who drew on the walls and cried in my mommy’s arms but I am just crying and drawing on different things and I am gaining new things and my idea of heaven is still the same but different people are there and my mind is set on new prizes and just like before, I did not stop until I got the prize I wanted, I will not stop now until I get the apartment I want with the person I want to get it with and I won’t stop until I am the best at my nw game because my new game is going to make people smile when I am done and in my eyes, there is nothing better than going to bed knowing that I have placed a smile on someone’s face and made them feel better about themselves.

So keep being that child in the arcade room.

Ash
xxx

HappyNew Year!!!

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Happy New Year Everyone:)

My new year’s resolution is simple, I need to stay true to myself. There is no use in losing what I have become this year because I have turned into the person I want to be.

This year has been beyond hard! Dealing with Ryan’s death, losing family members, matric was one of the biggest roller-coasters of my life and heartbreak but you know what, it was not all that bad.
I did matric for Ryan and me and I am proud to say I passed with good marks. I spent two years working my butt off to get to where I am today in terms of my education and all the hard work has paid off. As for my emotions when it comes to Ryan, every single day is different. There are days when I really need to speak to him and I miss him so much that it hurts but then I also get the days where I know what he would say to me and I would look up at the sky and smile because I know he is proud of me and he knows I will make the right decision. My uncle Abe is not suffering anymore. He taught me that I must not give up no matter how hard the fight may seem. As for heartbreak, well I’m a heartbreak survivor and I have learnt my lesson! I know now that guys are creatures us girls cannot live without but that does not mean that you must let them take advantage of you. We are princesses and deserve to be treated like one.

As much as I love New Years, I cannot help but feel sad. For you see, today two years ago was the last time I got to see Ryan. I was his last friend he ever saw and I am very honoured I got to spend his last New Years with him. Today, as I looked up at the sky, the clouds moved away from the moon as I thought about him and when I stopped, the clouds covered the moon and the stars came out. Was the most gorgeous thing I have ever seen.

2012 gave me a lot. It showed me who my true friends are and who were there just to tag along on the ride of Matric. But the thing I am most grateful for is: it brought me so much closer to my lil sis. This year was a very very bumpy trip. There were huge obstacles to overcome and mountains to climb but we did it together and we are stronger now than ever. I know that 2013 will bring me even closer to her and I thank G-D for her every single day because without her, I would not have been able to get through this year.

Friends come and go but family is forever! Blood means nothing. If the person is there for you and loves you like family, then they are family.

Thank you all for supporting me and my blog this past year and I wish you all the best for 2013. May all you dreams and wishes come true. May you have health, wealth and happiness in the near future and many many more years to come.

Speak to you all soon
Love
Ash
xxx