Posts Tagged ‘people’

Learning to say NO

It is funny how people work. We are always so eager to say no to people about things that do not benefit us in some way or another. I have recently gone through a bit of a rollercoaster in my career. I hurt my hand so I have had to take a step back and let my hand heal and at the same time learn to tell people no or that I can’t help them and for me, that has been one of the hardest things I have had to do.

I am not the type of person that will say yes to you because it will benefit me but I will say yes because it is what is best for the person. I have had to put myself first and learn to say no and by doing that, I am starting to take the time to learn what it is that I need.

It is all very well helping people for a living and then coming home and helping out the people that I care about but I have come to realise that it is ok to saying no to helping them and asking them to help me. Some people only see me as the Fixer but I have been told that I am more than just that!

I am more than the person who solves problems and fixes and makes better, I am a person with feelings and needs as well.

I want you all to learn from my time off and learn that it is ok to not always help. You cannot help someone if you broken or you are an empty cup. You need to take care of yourself so that you strong enough to help the other people out there who may need your help. Do not be a doormat and allow someone to walk all over you just because they are going through a rough time in their life. We all have issues and troubles. That is what makes life a challenge and worth it! But that is not an excuse to be used the whole time and not have someone take care of you.

Learn to say NO to save YOURSELF!

Hope you all have an amazing day full of love.

Lots of love

Ash

Time to deal with my problem

Hey guys

This post includes a short story as well as an explanation… At the moment, I am dealing with someone in my life who is making my life hard and at time, I just cannot deal with it. I feel as if she is trying to run my life and be someone who she is not but having said that, I still love her with all of my heart and soul. I honestly just need to find the balance between all of this and learn to deal with it. I have always been told that you are not given anything you cannot handle,therefore, it is time for me to learn to handle this.

You are taught things in life like how to walk and talk, how to ride your bike and then the fairy wheels get taken off and you learn to ride a two wheeler, you then learn how to drive a car and run a home. Anything that is attached to something materialistic, you can be taught how to use it or taught the skill. All you need is the instruction manual and you are good to go. The issues begin when emotions come into play and your feelings and other human beings. You see, no-one can teach you how to deal with every single person because everyone is different and we all come with our own sets of rules and goals and life lessons. We learn from each other (the good and bad about a person can help you learn about the way in which a certain type of person functions) and by learning about other people, we begin to learn more about ourselves and the type of people we can and cannot handle. New problem… what if you are related to someone you cannot handle all the time? A person who you cannot connect with or understand on a certain level… I was told a story tonight that I would like to share with you

A few years ago a man became very rich and his father lived with him. They were not short of anything and whatever the father needed, he got and the son was very happy to give it to him. As the years went by, the father got older and more and more demanding and slowly but surely, the son could not take it anymore and he kicked the father out the house and onto the streets. The more the son thought about all the mess the father would make and all the stuff he broke, the better he felt about his decision. A few weeks past and the grandson was walking home and saw a bunch of beggars on the side of the road. The one stopped him and asked for some money or food or something. The grandson turned around and said, “I am sorry but I don’t have anything with me at the moment.” The grandfather grabbed his hand and said, “Do you not recognise me? I am you grandfather.” The boy was in shock and told his grandfather to wait one minute as he ran home to get help. When he got home he started to cry and said to his father that you have to help him! He has become a beggar and has nothing. “My son, I am not interested in your sob stories but go into the attic and get a coat and you can give it to him.” The grandson wiped his tears and went to go get the coat. A few minutes later the father went to the attic and asked what is taking him so long. Eventually the son came down with half of a coat. “My son! What have you done? Now there is no coat and your grandfather is going to freeze!” The son looked at his father and said,” I am saving the other half of the coat for when I kick you out the house just like you did to your father.” It was at that moment that the son realised what he had done and he brought his father back into his home…

We are all faced with challenges and people we do not always want to deal with but at the end of the day, we have to be grateful that they are there and that we have to do what we have to do sometimes. We cannot live life with regrets and no matter how much something or someone might get on your nerves, we have to remember that one day we will all be there and we will all get old and need some help and someone to be there.

Don’t give half a coat. Give the full coat and learn to balance everything.

Have a great weekend guys
Ash
xxx

Growing up 101

Hey guys

Long time, I know. I am sorry about that but truth is, I have not had the time to sit down and write let alone blog but I am going to make time to blog and write poetry and so on.

Right so here is some advice for growing up… IT SUCKS!!! I had an idea of college in my head and now that I am living it out, it is so different compared to what I thought it would be. For example: My course I have chosen is a lot harder than I thought it would be but I am working hard in order to do my best. After all, this is the rest of my life we are talking about. In school, everyone would say that after matric our lives would start and we would be thrown into the deep end, head first and if you don’t swim, it is your problem. They were not joking. No more spoon feeding, or reminders for assignments or tests. You get told once about it and that is it. If you forgot, oh well, here is to your first fail.

Having said all that, I am still the person I was before I left school. The difference now is; I am on a different campus and I am learning about my career and job choices. College life is very fun. Get to meet new people. People who have the same interests as I do and same goal. We all want to be Somotologists at the end of it and it is nice to talk to people who have the same vision. However, there are still things in my life that mean more to me than my career or college. Some people feel that once you go to college, you tend to lose the person you were in school and all your old friends tend to disappear. This is not true. I am still friends with people I was friends with before, only difference is; I am friends with the people who were there from the beginning and wanted to stay in my life. I am closer to some people after school than I was in school.

You never really leave high school. You always have that one person who is stuck there mentally and acts like an immature 13 year old. As annoying as it is, it feels like a piece of school is still there. School will always be in my heart, I am just on a road to the rest of my life and the important people are on the road trip with me.

So there we have it… I am on the road to my dreams and people such as my parents, lil sis, Samalee and Shmoobear are on it with me and I would not have it any other way. Yes not seeing my lil sis every single day breaks my heart and my mornings are horrible! But when I get to see her, the time I spend with her is more special. Love you

Love
Ash
xxx

Stage of the bruise

Hey guys

So at the moment I feel like I am a giant bruise.

I feel as if I was hit by a 7 ton truck or Matric as people call it and I am a bruise that is very painful and is slowly changing colour. Truth of the matter is: I have been writing exams for about 4 months now and I still have 3 weeks to go.!! It is like I am on the run away train to nowhere and I want to get off now!

I know that the end of matric means that it is the end for seeing my school friends everyday and that is the pain of the bruise. School and these exams that are trapping the blood from getting out(sorry about the details:P) but it is true. As much as I do not want to end the only thing I have ever known, I am eager  to know what else is out there.

This year has been long and hard and just like a bruise changes colour, my mood, my personality and attitude has changed as well. I feel like one second I am happy and the next all I want to do is ball my eyes out and snuggle! Then I am fed up and cannot look at another word. I am not a mess, I am just a bruise at the moment.

I know this will all go away once I get onto that plane and party and relax for a week solid! I really need some friend time at the moment and this holiday is the last time I will be able to be with friends all together for a really long time as a lot of my friends are moving away to study or taking a gap year in London. My other friend is moving to New York and I fear that I will never see her again.

So you see, there is a lot going on but it is going on all at once and when I finally catch my breath, it will all be over. Guess all I can do is deal with one thing at a time and go from there. Everyone tells me that everything happens for a reason and we can handle anything we are given… Now is the time for me to prove it as now is the time for me to grow up…

Scary thought right!

Ash

xxx

MATRIC!!!!!

Hey guys

I think it is fair to say that matric has to be one of the biggest roller coasters out there. I mean think about it…. First it takes away your social life. then your friends because they leave to go overseas and before you know it, the year is over! On the up side, matric has shown me who I have become. It has allowed me to grow as a person and I feel like I have learnt more about myself in the past year than I have in a very long time.

It has taught me that I can stand on my own and I can over come a lot in life if I think about it logically and be a ‘clever bitch’ It has shown me that I am always going to find people who want to hurt me and bring me down but I need to hold my head up high and be proud of who and what I am. I have come to understand that with hard work and passion, I can achieve anything I want to in life. I have come to realise that I can have fun and dance in the rain. Sometimes you just have to let go and live in the moment…. After 2 years of hard work( I did not work in grade 10) I won an academic award and as award for First Aid and my service to human kind. When I was called up my heart sank and I did not believe it was my name they were calling out which brings me to my next point… After I got my award the first person I told was my lil sis. She is my rock, my torch, my everything and if it was not for her, I would be the person I am today. School brought her to me and I will always be grateful to my school for allowing me to meet my muse.

Matric is hard make no mistake and it is a year I will never forget… It has its highs such as my matric jersey, being heads of the school, my matric dance and creating ever lasting bonds. It also has its lows, hard work, pressure, pimples, stress and goodbyes…

Ash

xxx

 

Electric Kiss- The newest and latest all girl group

This just in!!!!!!!!

South Africa is home to the newest and coolest all girl group Electric Kiss! Tammy and Stacey are twins that will rock your world! Their voices are unique and are about to hit our souls with full force. Their one song Short Shorts is a great way to get your morning started with a huge smile. You can jive to their song and it will put a smile on anyone’s face.

They are in studio at the moment recording their album but to give you a sneak peak, check out their song on iTunes or Youtube

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUs13JQ_8jE

Check them out now and like their Facebook page… I promise you will not be disappointed!

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Electric-Kiss/176016765742168

SO GO NOW AND CHECK THEM OUT!!!

Don’t WASTE time! You should have their links open by now