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Learning to say NO

It is funny how people work. We are always so eager to say no to people about things that do not benefit us in some way or another. I have recently gone through a bit of a rollercoaster in my career. I hurt my hand so I have had to take a step back and let my hand heal and at the same time learn to tell people no or that I can’t help them and for me, that has been one of the hardest things I have had to do.

I am not the type of person that will say yes to you because it will benefit me but I will say yes because it is what is best for the person. I have had to put myself first and learn to say no and by doing that, I am starting to take the time to learn what it is that I need.

It is all very well helping people for a living and then coming home and helping out the people that I care about but I have come to realise that it is ok to saying no to helping them and asking them to help me. Some people only see me as the Fixer but I have been told that I am more than just that!

I am more than the person who solves problems and fixes and makes better, I am a person with feelings and needs as well.

I want you all to learn from my time off and learn that it is ok to not always help. You cannot help someone if you broken or you are an empty cup. You need to take care of yourself so that you strong enough to help the other people out there who may need your help. Do not be a doormat and allow someone to walk all over you just because they are going through a rough time in their life. We all have issues and troubles. That is what makes life a challenge and worth it! But that is not an excuse to be used the whole time and not have someone take care of you.

Learn to say NO to save YOURSELF!

Hope you all have an amazing day full of love.

Lots of love

Ash

Zoom out

Good evening everyone 🙂

This week has not been a fun one I will tell you that much. Exams starting(YUK) my baby bird died last night (I’m very upset about that) a teacher at my school passed away this morning. Eventful week wouldn’t you say????

I always try my best to stay positive in life and find the good in all the bad. This is not always an easy thing to do and at the moment I am finding it very hard to positive and this scares me. I am the one person who everyone turns to, to try get a smile on their face or a little giggle which will make them feel better. Today I can’t be that person and I am sorry about that but in order for me to fix others, I need to fix myself. So here is my attempt to make me see the good and for others to see it at the same time. Going to kill 2 birds with one stone (OMG the tears are starting)

You cannot see the solution to your problem with tears and fear in your eyes. You need to push the bad aside and make room for the good to come. In order for the good to come, you need to focus on a solution to get it. How can you do that??? Sinple really. You need to almost cancel out your situation from your mind and look at it from the outside. Now I know it is easier said then down but the truth is, it is the only thing that helps me. You see, when you emotionally involved in a situation, you cannot see all the doors and windows to get out, to find a solution. When you take a step out, you can see the whole plan. In other words, zoom out. Take time out to zoom out. When you concentrate on the good and stay positive, you tend to zoom out and you see a solution. You get an idea on how to solve your problem. Now I realise this does not always work and sometimes in life you cannot solve it and mold it into something that you will like. The outcome is always unknown but at least you know you tried!

You cannot try if you not willing to pull yourself together and think. It is time for us all to zoom out and we will all find our solution or get comfort in knowing that we tried.

Have a great weekend

ASH

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